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As you read in the article (How compatible am I with my partner?;) being “compatible’ with your partner in terms of values, interests, habits and pursuits is only one part of the “glue” that binds you together.
What are the other parts that make up your ideal match?;
We now know that building a relationship and helping it thrive depends on how the two partners interact with each other.
According to research, couples who focus their energy on creating meaningful shared experiences together (for example, starting a family or setting up a business together) tend to have longer-lasting relationships.
How the couple interacts is the number one factor in creating a successful and happy relationship.
In other words, it is not who you are or what you do that will determine the longevity of your relationship and the fulfilment you experience within it. Instead, it is how you speak to your partner, how how you care for them, how how you navigate your daily life together, and how how you offer love to one another.
To connect meaningfully and authentically with your partner, do not try to answer the ‘what’ and “who” but focused on answering the how.
If your soulmate exists, then they support your life's dream with all their being…
If your soulmate exists, then they care for you every single minute in thought and in action…
If your soulmate exists, then they admire and respect you…
If your soulmate exists, then no matter how many years pass, they continue to ask you about yourself in order to get to know you better…
The above may sound ideal, but think of that moment when you come into contact with your need to meet someone who truly believes in you… isn't this need paramount for you?;
Each of us seeks love in a different way and with a different intensity, just as you are searching for it. Remember that you are the one who creates compatibility. There is no magic potion or perfect algorithm, nor will there ever be, to help you build a happy relationship with another person.
Of course you must fall in love with the other person, of course you must find them attractive, of course you must share common values and a vision for life, of course you must feel a sense of intimacy when you are with them, but all of this is only part of the whole that contributes to a healthy, happy, and lasting partnership over time.
On this journey of yours, therefore, I invite you to focus on whether the person who attracts you can also see your vision for life, whether they can accept and support who you are today and not who they expect you to become tomorrow…